Another take on marriage
Tuesday, July 01, 2014 10:00 PM
Here's another take on the same-sex marriage controversy: Are you ready for this? Nothing, really, has changed.
I am writing this on Friday night, after the U.S. Court of Appeals in Chicago put a stay on the order allowing same-sex marriages in Indiana. But this column began before the stay was ordered. It seems to me little, if anything, was changed by the order ending the ban on same-sex marriage. Think about it.
Nearly all the opposition to same-sex marriage arises from people with opinions on what the Bible says about marriage: "One man and one woman is to be the standard," they say, and I would agree with that. But marriage is a function of the state, not the church. That may sound shocking but at the end of every wedding ceremony I've attended - or performed - this statement is made, "Now by the authority granted me by the state, I pronounce you man and wife."
That is not just a formality; I challenge you to find a wedding ceremony in the Bible.
True, Jesus performed his first miracle at the wedding in Cana of Galilee but he didn't perform it. There is no "thus saith the Lord" about the form marriage ceremonies should take. The Bible speaks to each of us as Christians and says, this is how you are to act when it comes to sex. The Bible also speaks of the church as the bride of Christ and says Christians are to be faithful to Christ as a wife is to be faithful to her husband and a husband is to be faithful to his wife.
My point is, people behave as they behave regardless of what the state says about the legality of same-sex marriage. It doesn't matter if the state says a couple can be Adam and Eve or Adam and Steve. Nothing will change.
If you are concerned about gay and lesbian weddings, perhaps the place to begin is to be concerned about gay and lesbian activity before you become concerned about wedding ceremonies.
Who knows when the first homosexual act took place between partners of the same sex? Probably not many generations after Adam and Eve. Is homosexuality a sin, according to the Bible? Yes. But so is fornication and adultery, and they have been practiced over the centuries, too.
Will the U.S. courts change the behavior of people? No. The only difference is, people's sexual activities are now more public than ever.
It used to be that only movie stars or others in far off places would "shack up" as we call it today. If a woman got pregnant outside of wedlock, it was considered scandalous.
I am saddened to think that even in Indiana, my home state, marriage licenses have been issued to people of the same sex but you know what - whether those people are legally married or not makes little difference. People will do what people do and laws can't change that.
I really don't want to think about what people do behind closed doors. They make babies, they steal, they scratch themselves, they urinate, they defecate and they have sex and I really don't need to know about it. I don't want to think about most things people do in private. The argument can be made that it's no one's business but theirs.
I do wonder, though, how many people look through the marriage licenses and the applications for divorce we publish regularly in The Paper. I'm betting you read The Paper, looking for the names and faces of people you know. Legalizing same-sex marriages will only serve to confirm what people suspect about the sexual orientation of their neighbors. I guess it could be a good thing. Parents could say, "Stay away from that adult. I don't want you to be influenced by them." But then, a lot of behaviors could cause parents to be alarmed. Check out the police blotter.
Frank Phillips is the Editor of The Paper of Montgomery County.